You’ve probably already made some resolutions for this year—but did having better sex make your list? If not, it might already be time to reevaluate your goals for 2018. It’s no secret that sex makes you happier—in fact, researchers from the University of Colorado at Boulder found that people who had sex at least once a week were 44 percent more likely to be happy than people who didn’t get down at all. chastity belts for men
And like getting fit or climbing the ladder at work, a better sex life does actually take some work. But it’s worth it: Couples who put effort into their sex lives have stronger relationships, new research from the University of Toronto suggests.
SEX POSITION: THE CAT
a.k.a. Coital Alignment Technique
Why it’s awesome: This twist on missionary position increases clitoral stimulation for your partner, says sex researcher Nicole Prause, Ph.D. In fact, past research has found that women who had trouble reaching orgasm during missionary position were more likely to orgasm using the coital alignment technique.
How to try it: Start in missionary position and shift your body up and over to one side. Rock forward and back instead of thrusting up and down to help you maintain direct contact with her clitoris, says Prause.
SEX POSITION: THE OTTOMAN EMPIRE
Why it’s awesome: It’s versatile, says sex counselor Eric M. Garrison, author of Mastering Multiple Position Sex. She gets to control the depth and speed, but it allows you to thrust at the same time, which can be hard to do with a bed fully underneath you, he says. Plus, both of your hands are totally free, so you can tease her erogenous zones or incorporate a sex toy. (Try out this vibrating ring if you want to go that route—it fits perfectly against her clitoris.)
How to try it: Lie back on an ottoman (without wheels!) so it supports your entire back. Have her straddle you, so she can move up and down. If you have a strong core, you can move half way down the ottoman, which gives you more freedom to thrust.
For a twist, she can kneel between your legs and perform oral sex on you, or straddle your face while you perform oral on her.
SEX POSITION: THE CHAIR
Why it’s awesome: If you haven’t mastered standing positions, ease into them with this one. It will provide intense and deep penetration for her, says Garrison. (Here are 11 more positions that will help you go deeper during sex.)
How to try it: Lean your back against the wall as though you’re doing a wall sit. Your legs should be bent almost to a right angle and close enough together that she can straddle you, says Garrison.
While it might take more concentration to keep your balance, your hands are free to rest on her hips, play with her breasts, or stroke her back as you thrust. Depending on her height, her feet might not be able to touch the floor. If it gets too tiring, form a tripod by having her drop one of her feet to the floor, which makes it easier on your legs.
SEX POSITION: THE MAYPOLE
Why it’s awesome: It’s a bit wild and the challenge can feel really exhilarating, says Garrison. Plus, her clitoris will rub against your pubic bone, making it extra pleasurable for her.
How to try it: Starting from the chair position, have her wrap her legs around you. Then, have her lean back, and with your hands beneath her bum, lift her up and move to an almost standing position. Lift her up and down your shaft. To help maintain your energy, keep your legs slightly bent.
SEX POSITION: THE TWIST AND SHOUT
Why it’s awesome: This sex position is slow and encourages deeper penetration. It’s also super intimate because you’re able to see her body while maintaining eye contact, says Garrison.
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How to try it: Lie on your back as if you’re ready to do a sit-up, but with one leg extended out and the other bent. Have her straddle on of your legs. She can then move up and down your penis, controlling the depth and speed. Depending on which side your penis naturally curves, she can sit and grind against you in the opposite direction of the curve, which should feel great for you.