Ultimate Guide to Blow Jobs

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Blow job, head, dome, oral sex, fellatio, whatever you want to call it, it’s a very personal act to engage in. His hard penis isn’t below our waist where we can’t see it unless we look down. It’s right in front of our face, waiting to be inserted into our mouths. I don’t know what it is about this act that scares the shit out of females, but if I were 18 with a hard penis staring at me again, I’m sure I would remember. I was a late bloomer when it came to sex (maybe it was the good Catholic girl thing) but I didn’t have any sort of sex until I was out of high school, let alone oral sex. I will never forget my first experience with giving head; every article I’d read from Cosmo flashed before my eyes, and I refused to let him know I was a rookie so I tried to remember through my vodka haze. It was this night that I was given my first praise (or my first lie, depending on your view of men). Ultimate Guide to Blow Jobs

So, what do we do when we’re faced with this challenge? This isn’t a situation where you can lay there like a dead fish and just let the guy have a “self-masturbation” session if you’re feeling lazy. We have to be involved, be active, and try and get through it if you’re one of those that doesn’t enjoy it. Some will have intercourse with a guy before engaging in oral because they feel like it’s more personal, while there are those who feel the opposite. There are also some who flat out refuse to engage in this activity, which is absolutely their choice, but it does make sex more fun and adventurous if you aren’t afraid of the body part that is supposed to please you.

Now, I’m not going to sit here and bore you with lies about how it’s the hottest thing and feels so good, because that isn’t how I feel. However, I do love the reaction I get from a man, I love the power I have while I’m on my knees with his balls in my hand, and I love it when the favor is returned. All of that makes this so called “job” a fun interaction with a man that can get you excited during the process.

Another thing we have to do is trust the person we’re with. Do we know for sure that they are clean? Do we take their word for it? That is all up to you. Getting on your knees and putting a guy’s penis in your mouth is extremely personal so we need to comfortable 100%. If you don’t really know your partner or don’t trust him (we’ve all been with a man whore or two) then do yourself a favor and slap a condom on his member. We would if we put it in our vaginas, so why shouldn’t we if we’re putting it in our mouths? Stock up on some chocolate flavored condoms and get him into it by having it sound appealing. If you’re excited about seeing what it tastes like, he’ll be more than willing to put it on and watch you work. I’d rather have a guy be slightly upset he has to wear a condom while I’m going down on him than to end up with incurable sores in my mouth. His moments of pleasure don’t counteract that lifetime of misery an STD can leave you with.

It probably used to be simple; women didn’t worry about it because all they did was bob their heads up and down a few times and maybe take some direction when their partner provided it. We now live in such a sexually-explicit time that it’s no longer like that. There’s techniques and preferences that are universally known to men and NEED to be known to women. I think that as females, we are still afraid to talk about sex explicitly which makes “word of mouth” an unreliable way to gather information about oral sex. When my best friend asks me for sex advice, I give it without hesitation. However when she asked me for quick tips on how to give head, I stumbled over my words and found myself blushing. It’s such an intimate act that we keep the details to ourselves instead of yelling them from the rooftops like we should to help out our fellow girls.

Personal Preference

One that I think we women run into (I find myself doing this frequently, so forgive me if you don’t fall into my stereotypes) is that we figure that all guys like the same thing, and they’re just happy to be getting laid. While this might be true for some that are desperate and have forgotten what it’s like to have something get them off other than their hands, it isn’t true for the general pool of men. They all have their own preferences, enjoy different techniques, and like you to take direction if it’s provided. You know how when a guy is going down on you and you’re wishing he would move slightly to the left? It’s just like him wishing you would use more mouth and less hands or maybe more hands and less mouth so they can get off quicker. So we have to remember the basics, but also learn to read their body language, their non-verbal cues, and learn that not all dicks are the same.

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Every time I start to give a guy head, I have a routine I perform that I eventually have to change, depending on the guy and his preferences. However, if this is a temporary guy and you don’t plan on seeing him again, the default preference will still blow his mind like you want it to. I’m not married and sleeping with the same guy every night, so I don’t have to worry about boredom becoming a factor, even though this may someday become a problem (I say this with hesitancy like I may jinx myself).

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